LOVE AND VIBES - BDSM Bedroom Restraint Set

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However, I think it's worth investing in some bondage equipment. A nice length of rope is a must. You don't need lots to get started with, but I'd recommend buying more than one piece. Also, I would look around for some nice leather handcuffs. They look so damn sexy and are much more versatile and comfortable to wear than the metal police-type ones. I'd also recommend creating some anchor points on your bed. Or if that's not possible, there are lots of excellent under the bed restraints sets. I recommend these as they can be used in so many different ways and with all sorts of restraints.

However, before you start your bondage fun, you need to talk to your partner. Don't just suddenly blindfold or gag someone with exploring the idea with them first, and I certainly wouldn't do both at the same time on the first occasion but try each one out separately.

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Remember how Christian Grey and Anastasia had a written contract? It actually wasn't a horrible idea. Since BDSM is all about communication, communication, and communication, it might be helpful to write down what you and your partner discuss in a contract of sorts—even if you're dating or married. Monieau’s path which lead to her foray into the world of BDSM is an unusual one, as she grew up in the Mormon community, whom stress their strict law of chastity – consisting of abstaining from sex outside of marriage, and shunning inter-marital affairs or homosexual relationships. Holly Richmond, PhD, LMFT, is a somatic psychologist, certified sex therapist, and author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life. A lot of people that engage in kink actually find they are dominant in their everyday lives, while in scenes they prefer to take a submissive role and give their dominant side a rest,” says Frye-Nekrasova. It’s simple and straightforward but no less true – plenty of people fantasise about anal, especially if they’re curiousbut it’s not something they’ve done with their partner before.

Also, keep in mind that BDSM can take a little prep work, says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, sexologist and host of the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. “Because BDSM can include activities that are new, intimidating, and risky, you need to proceed with care and caution,” she says. “Don’t assume that you can dive in head-first and re-enact a scene from a film or erotic novel without preparation, education, or experience.”https://www.issm.info/sexual-health-headlines/study-explores-personality-and-bdsm-roles?highlight=WyJiZHNtIl0= There are many cheap and adjustable under-the-bed bondage kits out there on the market, or if your bed has 4 bedposts, you could use simple ropes, ties, or zip ties to restrain your partner and leave them helpless. Negotiation needs to be done before a scene and essentially every single time," says Wright. "Negotiating a BDSM scene can include agreement of roles and expectations, hard and soft limits or boundaries, a safeword, what types of play are on the table, how long you want the scene to be, any triggers or past traumas to be aware of, and health concerns." Safewords are a key part of consent. https://journalofpositivesexuality.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/10/No-Pain-No-Gain-Therapeutic-and-Relational-Benefits-of-Subspace-in-BDSM-Pitagora.pdf While Dom/sub dynamics are primarily found in kink, they actually play out in most forms of sex. One person is usually the more submissive partner, while the other is more dominant. But within the context of BDSM, these dynamics become even more explicit. BDSM stands for bondage, Dominance/Dominant, submissive/submission, and sadomasochism. This is when two or more people engage in consensual power exchange. The sub willingly hands over the power within the scene to the Dominant.

This is also known as ‘orgasm denial’ or ‘orgasm control’ and is when a person is kept in an intense state of arousal for a prolonged period of time. In this way, one person has full control over their partner’s orgasm. How to Add Erotic Sexual Denial into Play Time For those not in the know, subspace is what Monieau describes as being a ‘nice bonus’ of being a submissive. If you’ve never given someone a cheeky slap on the behind, now’s the perfect time. And you can do so easily whilst in a number of different positions. It’s really important to note, however, that having this type of fantasy or being curious about acting out a rape scene during resistance play doesn’t mean that the person actually wants to be raped. experience unwanted sexual Indeed, quite the contrary—resistance play requires a trusted partner and clear boundaries (e.g., safe word to stop the play) established beforehand. Bondage If you’re new to the world of BDSM, you may not be familiar with the notion of aftercare. But this is actually a very important activity practiced by those who engage and live the lifestyle. It’s something to take note of as a means to keeping both parties emotionally, physically, and mentally safe and secure.Rough’ is a pretty subjective term – as long as everything is consensual and no one is in danger of serious harm, you can be as rough or semi-rough as you like. Because BDSM typically involves surrendering control, trust and communication is everything. It's extremely important that you're as specific as possible with your partner about what you want and don't want, as they should be with you. For example, let them know if the idea of being blindfolded excites you but having your hands cuffed makes you anxious. Similarly, hear them out if they tell you they never want to be in a submissive role. I like someone who is self-assured and can command a presence,’ she says. ‘I like someone with a dark side. Not a dark side as in, their personality shows red flags, but someone who can do some nasty, amazing things to me.’ But in this case, encouraging a partner to orgasm after time is a kinder and milder way in which to experiment with this kind of practice. If both partners have enjoyed this, you could move onto orgasm denial, or even stimulation deprivation. How to Intensify Erotic Sexual Denial During Play Time

Understanding what the Dom/sub dynamic is, how it functions, and how to negotiate around it in your own relationship(s) is key to creating the kinky sex life of your dreams. It is the base layer. It is the fundamental configuration of role play.People may wish to enhance the experience with the help of costumes, toys, and props. Allowing the imagination to run wild can also add excitement and pleasure. Have an aftercare When tying someone, for a sexy and exposing position, try tying their hands in front of them or hands behind them. You could also have them stand with their hands tied up above their head - or tie their wrists to their ankles, either with a set of ankle and wrist restraints, or rope. For more, take a look at Fetish.com's five basic bondage ties. The key is to build up slowly together and find the places and positions that turn you both on. Negotiation is paramount before planning a scene. I know you've probably seen tons of films where spontaneous steamy moments are the norm, but when it comes to BDSM, negotiating is a must. And FYI: Talking to your partner about what you want to try together is as sexy as it is responsible. That way you and your partner can look to your heart’s content around consenting adults while they get their freak on. Exhibitionism D/s dynamics will play out in every kinky scenario, because it is the core of the practice. But how it shows up is another story. This is one of the things that makes kink so appealing. You can completely customize an experience to cater to your specific interests.