Stop Thinking, Start Living: Discover Lifelong Happiness (Book Artwork May Vary)

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Well said, friends! As long as a thought is in our heads, we don’t have to take responsibility or feel something. It’s purely an intellectual exercise. It isn’t time which heals all wounds; it is the dismissal of negative thoughts which fade away over time.

P 22. You can frighten all depressed yourself with your own thinking in a matter of seconds if you don't realise that you're doing it. A thought may cross your mind, eg i've been depressed so long, or, my marriage is no good , you can dismiss those thoughts and others like them you can let them go. As long as you know that you are in charge that you are the one doing the thinking then you are protected. it's no different than dreaming. Sleepless nights came more regularly than I ever could have predicted. Confusion was my norm. Indecisiveness became expected. Uncertainty was my only certainty. Finding new language to define your control can be a good way to reframe your outlook. For example, “I have control of my reaction to this situation and plan to do my best.” Making progress in reframing will open up opportunities to improve negative thinking. Don’t be afraid to ask for helpIt's always the thoughts you have about events, not events themselves that create the feelings you experience, your thoughts cannot hurt you as long as you remember that you are the thinker of your own thoughts and that your thoughts are creating the feelings you are experiencing. As long as you let these thoughts come and go, there effect on you will be minimal. Experiencing life versus organising life. Letting go, versus hanging on Focusing on what you can do versus focusing on what you cannot do Learning from mistakes going on, vs. dwelling on mistakes and repeating them. Now, don’t get us wrong: thinking constantly is a good thing; it can be an even better one if you are aware of the fact what thinking actually is. Being comfortable with being wrong, and knowing that your opinions and knowledge of a situation will change with time, brings a sense of true inner freedom and peace. 3. Learn the reasons why over-thinking is harmful and let it motivate you. P 33. Your self-image and personality are a compilation of thoughts that you have about yourself, some of which may be negative. If you have never learned to take seriously negative thoughts about yourself, you would not experience the feelings that go along with them today. Your thoughts have no power to harm you other than the power you give them.

P 30. You cannot think your way out of depression. The reason is when your spirits are low you will generate negative thoughts. All you will see is negativity. You already know that your thoughts determine how you feel, but when you think in a depressed state of mind you will only make matters worse. You know how a couple starts acting differently the moment it accepts the fact that it is a couple? Consider canceling your TV service. It's a drastic step for some people, but TV's scheduled programming can disrupt an otherwise-adequate daily schedule. Most people find that they don't miss TV service as much as they thought they would after a few days without it. Invest in a paid video streaming service instead, so that you can watch TV shows when it's convenient for you. I recently read a research report on the top 20 worries amongst the population. I was surprised that worrying about whether we worry too much wasn’t even on the list. Everything from getting old, to the illness of a pet, to saving enough money did make the list, however. Don’t personalize everything. Consider that what you are witnessing is not about you. We have a tendency to personalize every interaction and every situation, but that is often not what is really going on.

What can I do when I notice I am overthinking?

According to Richard Carlson, healthy psychological functioning is our natural state – and it is a state of perfect equilibrium and absolute happiness. Richard Carlson, Ph.D, was born and raised in the Bay Area. He grew up in Piedmont and received his bachelor's degree from Pepperdine University and his doctorate in psychology from Sierra University before opening a private psychotherapy practice.